Let's All Be Like Coffee

[asitis]

Your H doesn't have the courage to face his emotions and problems.

E

Thanks, E. I guess I am just having lots of self doubt and I question my part in all of this and start believing my H's words that maybe we are here because I am the broken one. I know it is not true, but it is easy for those self esteem issues to rear their ugly heads when you are feeling down.

No. No. No. No!

You own up for your part. That's healthy and realistic. But it is almost never one persons. Your H is undermining your self-esteem to prop his up.

We are all sometimes the carrot. You are not going through something the rest of us avoid. It will pass, and you are doing as well as any of us at the stage you are.

Hang in there and believe in yourself. You are making progress on you. Don't let your H set the agenda. You focus on you. Let your H focus on himself. Maybe then he will eventually come around to face his own issues.