Jim0987 #15 - Further on up the road

[jim0987]

Hi all.

Just posting some movement in my situation. My XW sent me a text this evening saying she has filed for D citing my unreasonable behaviour.

I've asked her to consider divorce on the grounds of her relationship with OM1. She refused saying he had nothing to do with it and that happened after we broke up.

I sent this as a response, but haven't had and don't expect any kind of response from her.

Whilst I will never know the details, nor do I wish to, it is simply untrue to say that. We both know that OM1, and your pursuit of OM1 played a significant part in both the timing of our break up and your refusal to work on fixing our marriage.

I will never deny you were unhappy, nor will I deny that I could have been a much better husband, because if nothing else I have been taught valuable lessons over the last year. Including how normal and resolvable our problems were.

Whilst I'm obviously disappointed by how things turned out, I have never tried to stand in the way of your happiness, and will not start now.

I would be grateful if you would reconsider my request to use different grounds but can understand why you would prefer not.

When the papers come I will submit a statement saying that I don't accept her grounds but due to her ongoing relationship with OM1 I have no wish to contest the divorce. This was the strategy I agreed with my solicitor back at Christmas time.

Anyway they (XW and OM1) are now off on a family holiday with the kids for a week so I won't get to see or speak to them for another 9 days.