So today I went for a drug test for a new job. I had my interview for this job on July 9th, which was the day he left. I never thought I would get to this point but so happy. It will help my financial situation tremendously. I believe it was on Gods timing too. She said it would take two days to get the results back and she wants me to start next week. I am excited but terrified. I don't do too good with change.
I have been getting better with detaching and my emotions. Still working on it but proud of myself for it.
Guess that's all for now. Going to read and then head to bed.
Congratulations on the new job! I hope everything works out for you.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
Me 41, H 47, M 15 yrs, S11, S13 BD 1: 11/4/14 we work on it; really I pretzel myself BD 2: 3/31/15 H goes down to "dorm room" 8/15: H back to MBR 10/15: H back in dorm room 1/18: H files, now divorced
Mlcers go back in time to a place where they were emotionally stunted. They need to face those issues, accept the things that they had no control over and then begin to move forward and grow up. They didn't get the validation, affirmation, the atta boy or girl on the back, they didn't get approval for the things that they accomplished and/or their ideas and possible love at that young age. They may have been criticized or made fun of and yes, a sibling may have been gotten all of the love and attention from the parents. There may have been abuse in the home, i.e., verbal, mental or physical.
During MLC, they are seeking validation and affirmation from those around them. They want to be recognized for what they do in a big way and sometimes will go out of their way to point out the things that they have done (good things) just to get the recognition. As for approval, they seek approval of others for the decisions that they are making at this time, which could include parents and/or authority figures. They want people to approve of their separating and divorcing of the spouses and, of course, their new life styles.
This link will explain some of what I have posted in the first paragraph:
So I got a little mad today. I found out he sent a woman he has never met money. It makes me mad because he doesn't offer to help me with anything but can send some random stranger money? I dont understand him or it at all. He told her if she needed more next week, let him know.
