Still DB'ing - Still Learning from WAW (6)

[PigPen]

So things going better being equated to justification for D can be a logical brain trick, and irritating to hear. But as long as you recognize that this is WAWs way of alleviating her guilt and justifying her decision then you can at least understand what's driving it and transcend that stuff.

This doesn't mean we shouldn't DB, do 180s for us, and continue to stand by our M...just that we should do that because it's what we believe and we want to be better people, not because we expect it to save our M. Be PP2.0 and be proud of your decisions, understand it probably won't matter, learn to accept that, and if your in the minority who's WAS comes out of the fog in the next couple of years you can figure it out from there. But there's no avoiding the loss, so stay on your road and continue to let go and move forward.

Thanks Zeus, this is how I feel at the moment. I believe on some level she feels bad. When we met three weeks ago she asked me if I knew "you aren't bad right, there's nothing wrong with you?" I was confused about the question but then remembered clearly her telling me that she was leaving me because I was "broken".

I always appreciate your stoicism. You're right, the statistics aren't in any of our favors. But, I truly believe that we will come out of this as better people if we stick to DB. If I get D or not, I have already learned a lifetime of relationship and communication lessons from Wonka alone, let alone from all of the other threads that I follow.

Thanks for stopping by.

PP