Hi Jim. Not rambling at all mate. I think your completely right. I do feel on some level I have a certain amount of control because EXW is very friendly and does open up when we talk My issue is the jumping before pushed analogue again
If EXW wants to come home it would take a huge backdown from her and she would have to give up her new life. I think this is a step to far at the moment and maybe ever.
As I've stated before EXW has reached out and does tell me she's ruining her life and doesn't know why she's doing what she's doing Also EXW does seem to want the home life to stay the same Her post is delivered here , she does not want he house sold ,does help with gardening and housework and offers to run errands for me
Jim. I suppose it's like I'm afraid to reach out in case I'm rejected but more than that I actively oush EXW away while she's reaching out
Yesterday she called and started an R talk of sorts and I said things like ' the kids have to get used to it ' and ' it's tough but it's now our lives.' If EXW were saying things like this to me I would be quite clear on how she felt
I suppose I need to stay the course and let EXW do her thing. I do tell EXW I want her to be happy and I show concern but part of me does think she's of the opinion that I don't want her back
Huddy. The point you raise is what it's all about really For me being the lighthouse is becoming a better person and letting EXW follow the light home if she chooses but not helping her to follow the light other than being the light
