Hi. Beagley. Thanks for posting. I get exactly what your saying. I think the DB view is that if EXW decides she wants to work on an R ,she would have to commit 110%. My EXW has talked of coming home , she does not blame me for M breakdown and says she didn't reject me but our life. She has spoken about herself being in an MLC or maybe having a breakdown. All of this could be taken as EXW trying to open doors or making overtures to work on R but if you step back , she isn't doing anything other than talking. And talk is cheap. Actions are where it's at.
The lighthouse story really says to me that we have to be a guiding light but not the rescue team.
Just my take Beagley.
Take care. Rd
You are right rd, I like the rescue team analogy.
The DB route is sometimes a bit too black and white, is all I am saying there's lots of grey in the world and I suppose to have a book that covered every shade would either be a large volume or if it was limited to say 50 of them it becomes best-selling "mummy porn". :-)
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