Sorry about that Cal. I was winging it and didn't have time to go back and look up specifics on your sitch; just going by what I remembered reading. Thanks for clarifying. But my main point remains the same. Anything can happen in the future, whether it be tomorrow, next week, next year, we never know.
Regarding being friends, you make a good point. In my case, the lies and cheating are a definite with my WW. As far as stealing, I'm not sure but I wouldn't be surprised she has taken things out of the house w/o asking or telling me. It's a gray area, since she technically owns half. But she is certainly willing and in fact feels somewhat entitled to as much financial assistance as she can get out of me. I guess that's stealing in a way. And no, I would not put up with any of that behavior from a so-called friend either, so makes me really question whether WW should get off the hook.
For now, I wouldn't say I'm acting like a friend, but more that I'm being friendly. I hope to be her H again, but if that doesn't work out, then I would hope to someday be "friends"; that would of course depend on whether WW comes to her senses enough to be a true friend and not look at me as someone she can use to her advantage. Who knows - these situations are all so complex that anything is possible.
Oh no worries ... I just did not want rumors to start and in a week someone posts I went 10 years ... ya know how stories can grow.
The Highlighted part ... (Sorry to hijack pinn but maybe some nuggets you can dip in ranch here) What does "come to her senses" mean to you .... I point it out because that line of thought is extremely controlling, like " Once she jumps through this hoop, dumps the OM, does this or that .. then and only then will I allow her into my circle"
Truth is ... you have to get to a point where you are comfortable with you, your W can do as she wants, when she wants and with who .... the vibe I get from your sitch is you feel taken advantage of, feel you are financing her way of life which you do not approve of (I do not blame you here .. your feelings are understandable) ... I would push you here .. this is only going to make you Bitter, not Better if you catch my drift.... its not going to land you where you want to be big picture wise.
For me ... after doing some self work, I realized my time was very valuable, and my W at that time was not 'friend' worthy ... she .. and many WAW/WW/MLCrs want the LBH as the back up, option #2, the 'friend' ... its a safety net/ security blanket ... one I was not interested in EVER supplying once I realized she had cake all over her new dress. This does give them a whiff of the Reality-Frapichino, as I have told her many times ... she can do as she likes, have whomever she would like close to her, .... but ya know what .. so can I and I chose to not have people who try to hurt me. Amazing how hurt they are by this even thought they have fired us.
