There will be time for get aways when it is time. If you have set on a path of NO OPEN MARRIAGE, how can you know if she is really out of the picture. I don't want to clutter how you've been feeling, since it has been more positive...honestly I don't. your husband said that relationship is swirling down the toilet. That does not mean it is over. it does not mean that he has sent her a letter stating that he is done with her for good. That does not mean that he is ready to commit to you as his one and only. That means $hit right now, other than he wants to go away with you.
There is a lot of work that needs to go into this reconciliation, it seams like he just wants to move forward without doing that work.
I am with you, we miss the passion, companionship, etc. so much...but if you want my opinion, you need to take this slowly and make sure that there is REAL intent and 100% honesty and contrition. If there is, he will be ready to meet your requirements for him to return to this marriage, not just him wanting to come back. (no contact letter, transparency, STD test, MC commitment, etc)
Without that, a short circuit in this will not allow you to fully heal from this wound to your lives. You do not want to end up here again in a few more years, RIGHT?
