I read up on your thread too and I think we are in the similar boat. (and timing too!) I really feel your agony. The pain and fear is indescribable. I can't concentrate on anything. I really wish I won't wake up anymore. I know we are still early in this, but I feel very inpatient. I wanted someone to fix this yesterday.
But somewhere in my mind, I know I will get H back. And that hope is all I'm clinging to. I know acting on the moment's emotions is not going to help accomplish that, so I'm trying my best to look ok while dying inside.
I'm still working on detaching. I still get so influenced by H's reactions/no reactions. I still get obsessed about A and OW. However, last night was one of the better nights, and I wonder if being nice(like offering dinner) to H works? Like in your thread, you were wondering if spending more time together to build the connection is better?
I know every situation is different bc we are dealing with different people, but this is so difficult isn't it...
