I just am reporting what I feel. I feel like it is over. I feel like I can not be happy living like this...in limbo waiting for her. I feel she is making a huge mistake and she will soon realize it. I feel like if she told me today that she wants me back I would not want her back. I can't trust that what she says. I can't trust her. I don't want her back after she has caused me this much pain. I know the kids' best interest is for us to stay together. Financially, it is best to jot get a divorce. But, for me personally, I feel like I am killing myself slowly with stress, pain, and fear.
All those things in blue are perfectly valid. I certainly understand WHY you feel that way. They are certainly reasonable feelings to be had.
The things I put in bold are your conclusions based on those feelings.
Here's the thing: FEELINGS ARENT PERMANENT. Do you always feel hungry? or sick? or tired? or happy? So I think you are better off not taking permanent stances based on these feelings. Thats like building a house on a foundation of sand, in my opinion.
Originally Posted By: EricT
She said she wants a divorce. I told her I accept that and let's get it going. I keep asking her when we can sit down and work out the final details.
Im confused. Does she want the divorce or do you? I thought you DIDNT want to be divorced. If so, why are you pushing to make it happen?
Originally Posted By: EricT
She keeps putting it off. I don't know what she is up to. OM is also getting a divorce right now. I wonder if their affair is on the rocks already or of she is getting ready to drop another bomb - like serving me papers that are not 50/50 custodsy, include child support, or if she is now trying to figure out how to get me out of the house and her back in.
As difficult as it is, theres no benefit to mind reading here. Theres any number of reasons that she could be putting this off. Youll never know. All guessing does is play tricks on your head and cause you to fill in blanks however you see fit.
Originally Posted By: EricT
She did message me the other day and asked me why she had to be the one to leave the house n I told her again that I thought it best for the kids that I have them in the house for stability while she searches for happiness.
No! She has to leave because she doesnt want to be married any more. Why should you leave - you are trying to keep your marriage together, right? Its not that its best for the kids - this comes off as preachy...like she doesnt know what is best for her children. She has to leave because she wants to leave. Simple as that.
