Yes, it's tough because the closer we get, the more I find myself pursuing him. He is supposed to be the one chasing here. I know that, but I still kiss him in the a.m. and let it be known that I want to have lunches with him again, etc.
I think I am about to go back to square one. We have gotten so comfortable around each other again, I really feel like I have to back off now. And yes, PATIENCE.
I have a plan. Morning: NO more cuddling (boy does that hurt) where we hit the snooze five times and just hold each other -NOPE, I'm going to get up and do my workout, then come back to make him breakfast. This time is both of our favorite, so he will wonder why I am not staying in bed to cuddle.
Lunch- He is too "busy" to meet me, so I am bringing my bike to work to go out riding in the woods nearby.
Evening -he works late often because a coworker retired and they are not replacing him. So, he has 12 hour days lately. His S13 is home alone, so I can't hang out too often. So, I will go home, make dinner, then go back out to the gym when he is about due home.
Lots of physical activity here will (1) get my mind off of pursuing behaviors before they become habit, (2) get me back in competition shape quickly, (3) keep me away from him so that he has to chase me, (4) potentiall make more friends with similar interests.
