My head agrees with what you are all saying and probably even my heart - just not my stomach some days.
His mom seems very convinced that she is either gone or on the way out. That made me feel better but I wish it didn't matter so much to me.
Originally Posted By: Maybell
I get the feelings, though. They trigger when we think we've mastered them and it's like a double-hit because not only are we having those yucky feelings but we're angry at having to live through that experience again when we'd gotten our heads around the facts and just want to move on.
Yeah Maybell - I feel kind of like I rushed to the airport, beat the traffic, managed to park, got through security, ran to the gate and breathed a huge sigh of relief that I made it, only to hear that the flight has been delayed while they wait an indeterminate amount of time for a crew to arrive.
Originally Posted By: Mozza
My IC talks some about this idea in my head that I was not good enough for my WW, that OM might be better fitted for her. In fact, he seems perfectly comfortable with the idea and to think that it is a possibility. "Why not?" he seems to say. His point appears to be: it has nothing to do with my worth. It is not a reason to think less of myself. It might be that we've grown different, WW and I; or that she was never a good fit for me; or that she needs something that I can't provide. Why would I be perfect for everyone? Why hold myself to this standard? Why measure my worth by her choices?
I get what your therapist is saying, Mozza, I do. However, for me there is something primal in the notion that when we get married we essentially tell one another that we choose one another above others. These days I find it is pretty painful to truly accept that didn't happen for me.
