Yeah, I agree... I do not want to waste my time that way either. I have to begin to trust and wait until he proves to be untrustworthy. But as we are working on our relationship, I think certain discussions will have to happen such as the boundary one. And in that boundary discussion I suppose it would need to come out if he is continuing to maintain a "friendship" w/ the OW. So I'm back to square one of not just coming out & asking but letting a boundary discussion lead us there. But still not sure when that will happen. We are both avoid-avoid... him more so... so I do not see him striking up a relationship conversation, especially when he is getting all his needs met. It is me that has the need for safety and security that is not getting met.
T: 14 M: 12 D: 9 S: 6 BD: 2/18/15 (H affair) Working on marriage: 3/12/15-6/11/15 Broken Trust (my error): 6/11/15 H ring off: 7/6/15; Comm w/ OW confirmed 7/13/15 H wants to work on fixing things: 7/21/15
