Rott, were you trying to say that nasty P word again in jest? I'm going to get you into habit of saying it aloud. Repeat after me:
PATIENCE IS MY FRIEND. PATIENCE IS MY FRIEND. PATIENCE!!!!
I think your H had something to say. After all, I think I would die of apoplexy if mine actually asked me if I wanted to talk!
I fully understand your reply... after all, he's guilty of wording the question so that it became passive (do YOU want to talk vs I would like to talk). Maybe when things start to become clear that he's working hard you can ask him to be specific in how he words his requests.
BTW, I have the same problem. Mr. Wonderful has a horrid habit of asking me what he should do. I HATE it! Then he gets mad if I answer. The answer to that dilemma was the stupid reply that is now standard fare for me: "I don't know. What do you think?"
Anyhoo.....
Don't ASSume it was bad, or you're going to wind yourself around the flagpole and have that stinkin thinkin. That sucks! Just figure that maybe he was figuring out things in his head and opted for a more safe alternative: keeping his mouth shut.
I love the door analogy too. That draws a really great visual for me, and I think it's perfect for you too. Time to let him wonder what YOU'RE thinking!
You go, girl!
Betsey
"There are only 2 ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle."
