Cali - I agree completely on the not knowing. What if you knew for FACT that your M had no chance - 0.000% - of being reconciled. Makes it easy to turn your back and ignore the work too, I think.
That 5% in there that we all have. It's that little bit of hope that I think drives this whole train.
That's some insightful thinking Azz, and makes perfect sense to me. The odds are long, but the stakes are high, and we're all committed to trying to beat the odds. And the good news is that, if we stick with it, we all come out winners regardless. Maybe not in the form of saving the M, but at least in terms of making ourselves tremendously improved. If you think about it, everyone on this board who really works at DB is going to have a heck of a good shot in their next M, whether it be with current spouse or a future one. While the WAS is highly likely to keep repeating the same mistakes if they do end up with someone else, and be right back in the same boat a few years later. Who wants to go through this pain more than once in a lifetime? I'll take the safe bet.
**Azz/Cali/dwh Thank you for your insight..as 4 months into a separation...I think I am at the 0.00% point of R. The level of introspection I have shied away from in the past is at hand ..and so far the results are not pretty...
