Pink. Great to hear you. Be nice to see an update on you and the boys
I'm doing better. It's hard accepting the sitch but I do understand I have to Exw called me on Wednesday to say she was fighting with D14 EXW said she didn't know why D14 wasn't happy. We chatted for a bit and EXW broke down and said she's been trying to understand why she left and feels she couldn't cope with the kids anymore and was burnt out. I validated and EXW said she was also worried about the future. I asked EXW if she was happy now and she said no and started crying. I told her that I wanted her to be happy and we finished the call.
I was with L/C last night and while she still thinks EXW will be home she wants me to move forward and live my life and it was s sort of DB session.
Sotto. Boundaries is s tricky one I don't see EXW much anymore. She is gone when I get home and it's only Saturday I really she her. Maybe my idea of boundaries are really just there to punish her. I'm not sure. My fear of doing things that might upset her is gone I do worry re her mental state as she is a women that walked away from her 4 kids ( and on the surface ) for not to great s life.
Also I want my kids as to have as much contact as possible so it's a tricky one
L/C was making some points about EXW not looking for anything financial from me even though EXW needs it and is struggling financially
To me it seems EXW had /has a MLC of some sort and was lost. If she's still lost or not , who knows. As I've posted before EXW will call me to discuss her health issues ( some very embarrassing to discuss) , her family ,her job and will start some R talks re how we got here but never of the future. She does treat me with respect, she aknoweledges her part in M brakdown and doesn't blame me for anything more than I would agree with. She makes dinner for me , will sleep in my bed ( when I'm not there ) she doesn't look for handouts or even help beyond a good neighbour but she lives apart from us and at the end of the day it's actions that matter.
Your right Softo. I will know when it's right to drop the rope and I like to think I've done nothing to win EXW back other than improve myself. I do t play games and I don't do anything other than what I feel is right I do read on here the MLC is a long process but with how EXW is ( a bit like your own H and Pinks ) she made a decision and is sticking to it
Thank you both for your continued support. Take care. Rd. xxxx
