Divorce is just a piece of paper......

[DFE]

I see what you are saying Cadet but I would think life has to be better for him now. He isn't tied down to a wife and kids. Sees his kids when it's convenient and the rest of the time he gets to focus on himself. He has ZERO financial responsibilities except for his own expenses and lots of cash from our divorce settlement. I would think life is great for him.

I agree we both have a lot of work to do. I am still very angry at him and I think he is angry at me. I just know by being angry at each other we will never get anywhere. AND it [censored] the energy out of me.

If I were to meet him today and not have kids with him or history I don't think I would date him let alone marry him. He isn't the man I met 21 years ago. The problem is he is the father of my children and someone I spent more than half of my life with so it changes things.

What boundaries do you suggest I set? Do we try being friends or just contact each other when it pertains to the kids? Ever since I emailed him the other day it has opened up the lines of communication again and he is now emailing and texting me about stuff again. Not sure how I feel about that........