Quote: Take care and relax. You're okay in my book!
You're sweet, thanks.
I am very independent. I've always thought my H does love that about me. But you may be right, he may want to be "head of household." After all, I am only one of 5, and the rest are his "family." (kids)
He ATTOTB began making decisions with the kids for the first time. It used to be that any time we were anywhere with the kids it was Elaine! Elaine! Elaine! Elaine!
It was his kids and him, constantly asking me questions, trying to fight over my attention, whatever. One day in August, just after the bomb, he turned around in the car and said, HEY! I'm here too! I'm your father! Why don't you ask me a question?
Well, since then, he began not asking me for my advice with the kids. It hurt, I felt he was cutting me out of their lives. But now I can see more clearly and know that he was hurt that I replaced him in their lives. Whenever they had something to share or ask or cry about, they would come to me. But I have only been in their lives for 6 years, and he has been there for all of their lives.
I'm going to try hard to let him take control more. Laurie (DB Coach) told me I should try that also. If I am getting this advice from several sides, I should probably try that.
