I'm glad you took it positively and are looking for ways to help your M move along.
I've learned the hard way through my M that having all the control is what caused my M to be so unbalanced. In fact, Mr. W. has told me a couple times, "Why do you need me around? I just become interference in your plans!"
Ouch!
And remember Michele's analogy about the tandem bike? Why should he take the initiative to pedal when you're doing all the work? Besides, you don't want to end up in the same place you were before, so part of this new M must be to give over some of the reins to him--even if you don't like it.
After you do it a few times, it gets easier. I won't say you'll like it more, because I still find myself mentally digging in the heels. But I quickly remind myself that doing things my way got us in this bind to begin with.
And I certainly don't want a future consisting of what was in our past. It sucks!
You're going to be just fine, Rottzilla. I smell success here. But patience and a whole lot of latitude is going to really push things along.
Hugs,
Betsey
"There are only 2 ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle."
