Piecing is supposed to mean that you are working on reconciling. My H has told me that he does not want to divorce me and that he wants us to get back together. We did go to Marriage counselling and individual counselling earlier this summer. He now has moved 3 hours away from me, something he planned immediately after our BD. I still hoped he would change his mind. Running away didn't help him with his problems and feelings of unhappiness. In fact I think he is now worse off than before. He lives with his mom, works part-time as a night security guard, misses work already and he has only been there for less than a month, has no car (uses his moms or rides his motorcycle) and his music school business is now almost non existent. His path, not mine. I listen, but just don't care anymore. In other word I really don't see us piecing anything right now. I live my life and do the things I have to do and he does what he thinks he has to do. I guess with the option of being together again someday.
I see from your signature that you and your H also don't have children together. Makes things somewhat final when you have no real ties to each other. My H never wanted any children and my kids were already adults when we met. Did you find that there were "issues" with the kids in their teens and your H. A lot of our problems stemmed from him not liking my parenting style. He wanted me to kick out the kids ASAP, something I just could not do. One is out of the house now (S24) and my daughter should be able to spread her wings to independent living shortly as well.
One day at a time! That is my mantra. Things can change so quickly, sometimes for the worse and sometimes for the better. Changes happen, regardless if we want them or not. I think it's horses*** when people say "This is the way I am. You can't change me! I can't change!". We all change all the time. The person I was just at he beginning of this year is not the same person I am today. Some changes are natural and some by choice.
Alright, enough about change. Time to get changed into my grubby clothes to do some work around the house. Hahahaha!
Missmeg, I wish you well today. Keep your head up high and know that there are many of us that know exactly how you are feeling.
Di-mond in the rough M-45 H-38 My children S-25 D-23 T 5 M 4 H left April Fools Day 2015
