Have you made any moves? Has she? I wouldn’t wait too long, here’s why… That physical connection will make most of the other stuff you're still agonizing over seem so much smaller and easier to deal with.
I’m not talking about all night romps here… you have to start slow. But you have to start somewhere, and I guarantee that it will give you wings!
You've been taking charge/leading in other area's and she's been liking that.
Just something to think about.
FY .. happy to see you my friend
OK, a bit of Full Disclosure here.
The sex thing.
When things started going south, as I have shared it was due to her medical issues. Sex became uncomfortable, then lead to a point it was painful. Doctor after Doctor ... mis diagnosis several times finally things started getting figured out. This was when MLC hit ... enter the beginnings of an A, the newness, rush .. besides the fact OM was 'well trained' as far as this went ... (Later intel, serial cheater, STILL married and OMW told W she was #10 or so in the past 6-7 years) Even then she still had the reoccurring issues that she has to deal with ... just the fact the A and all that helped her get over the hurdle if you will.
So now .. with us ... The intel she learned, the fact she contracted HSV-2. She contracted this Mar14 but was in such a fog, OM was a skilled liar ... she was told either she got it from me and it was dormant ... or from someone else and was dormant ... and just flared up due to her low immune system. OM knew enough info to be dangerous and W was in such a fog she eat anything he served up.... truth is OM has had HSV-2 for some time OMW confirmed this. So after all this there was a fear, and a good possibility she could very well have HIV ... She was retested in MAR, and has to retest again in Sep (Ironically my birthday ... 2 years post BD) so to be safe, and in W's words the fear of not knowing for sure ... the fear she could possibly give HIV to me and rob S of not one but both parents is pretty sobering. I am taking meds to ensure I do not contract the HSV-2 ... but until she can get tested again in Sep, sex is really off the table ... not all bad as we have 'the gift of time' to sort through some issues revolving around it.
Not all doom and gloom, there have been some 'petting' sessions we are slowly at least discovering things about each other, for the first time in our relationship there is dialogue about what each other likes, what we want, etc. She went out this week and shared that she made a stop at VS with me in mind. She bought some dresses knowing I love it when she 'girlies' up for a night out. I suggested a massage night just for her ... those kinds of things...slowly I think we will get there, but that cloud hovers overhead a bit ... till we get a green light there seems to be alot of anxiety in that for her and as much as I would like to push through that ... I think taking a step back and letting things develop after we know we are clear is the way to go for now.
