So, I am going to let her have the D and I am going to move on.
Im not sure I saw this anywhere, so Ill ask you here. What are your goals Eric? Its been what, 6 weeks since BD and youre already ready to give up on your marriage? Ultimately, its your decision on what to do. But in my opinion "moving on" means closing the door on this relationship, and from the tenor of your posts, that doesnt seem what you want to do? My advice is to let her live her life with her decisions now. In the meantime, you take this time to grow into the person you want to become. Then, when youre ready, you can worry about closing the door on this. There are many stories of WWs coming back 6 weeks, 6 months or 6 years later. Are you ready to take that off of the table?

I don't think I can trust her anymore if we were to reconcile (she doesn't want to at this point, but even if she wanted to do so in the future - I don't think I could trust her). Of course you cant trust her right NOW. I say dont worry about this until youre in a position to possibly R.


She has not admitted to the affair even though all the evidence is there. She maintains he is just a friend and he is supporting her. LOL.
Why would she admit it right now? You are going along with everything shes suggesting. You arent even talking to a lawyer to see if shes screwing YOU. My W admitted the affair the minute after the agreements were signed. You know what you know, why are you ignoring it?

I don't buy it, but like I said, I don't want to fight it anymore. The two of them are both cheaters and I believe they are meant for each other.
Nobody is telling you to fight the D. If youre in quicksand, what does fighting do? You cant change her decisions through your words right now. But, you should fight for yourself and for your kids. Make sure you are happy with any deal you do sign...Nobody else is looking out for you.

I have the opportunity to be the rock for my kids, so I am taking it.
It SOUNDS like you are getting tossed around in her craziness right now. Let her waves crash around you as you stand as the rock for your family. I dont see how throwing in the towel on your relationship proves to them that you are the rock.