Hi 4, I think there's some really good stuff in your post - well done!!

The thing that stands out for me is the shift from:

Event - Reaction (anger towards someone etc....)

to

Event - reflection - Reaction

So, you are processing what is going on before you respond in a more thoughtful and respectful way. That my friend is GROWTH!!

As you say - sustaining these kinds of changes in the longer term takes effort. But regardless of your partner - do you want to sustain them??

Pleased for you xx

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We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus