I think going out once in a while but maybe not to bars....go to the moview with a gal pal to see a chick flick...join a writer's group or gardening club that has weekly meetings....then, you are doing legitimate activities...or take a class at your local college.
Hi Rotzilla, I just got caught up on your sitch...congrats to you on H's commitment...I'm just praying I get there someday! So much of what you've talked about sounds like what I would have written myself... Sounds to me like you got good ideas on the going out part...start slow and see what happens makes a lot of sense! take care...I'm rooting for you! Deb
Rottzilla, it sounds like things are going well. H seems to be making the right moves with you. Continue to be patient and trusting with him, keep polishing those DB skills, we need to remember to do such when things are going well too.
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you handled yourself great!!!! and what a turnaround from him and your right it doesn't matter, he chose you!! why can't you spend time with both friends and H? You still need space from eachother--everyone does, its healthy for you. Happy watering!!!
Renew, yes, my bday is tomorrow. A huge 180 for me, by the way, I used to hide my bday so I didn't get any attention. Now I am telling everyone. H is surprised. He and I are going to see a movie together and then out with friends at night. It's his kid's weekend with him, so we got a babysitter. I feel guilty leaving them when they only see their dad every other week, but it's once a year, right?
YAY ME! PMA UP! Shoulders BACK! Happy face ON! I'm all ready for our Thursday night outing with his karate friends. I'm going home, put on a mini skirt and some boots, and those sexy earrings he loves and AWAY WE GO!!!
Another 180 I did yesterday. H used to look at me a lot with tears in his eyes (you guys are going to start thinking he's an emotional wuss, but he only was with me-he's actually very "manly.") and tell me "God, you're so beautiful." Then he'd shake his head and turn away before I could see him cry. I constantly would tell him "no, I'm not." Not surprising a man who loved me that much and was constantly rejected could stop loving me when I continued to reject his feelings like that.
So, yesterday as he held me, he looked in my eyes and tenderly whispered "your eyes are so beautiful in the morning." I said "thank you." He looked shocked. LOL - Let's hope that this leads to more verbal loving. YAY!
Quote: So, yesterday as he held me, he looked in my eyes and tenderly whispered "your eyes are so beautiful in the morning." I said "thank you." He looked shocked. LOL - Let's hope that this leads to more verbal loving.
Akgal walks up with great big cake in her hands. Sings loudly, "Happy Birthday to you, you belong married to, the H who adores you, and whom you adore, too!"
Here's wishing you a happy birthday and many more...married years!
It's 8:40 and I am waiting for H to finish karate class so we can go out. I am bummed and trying to get my PMA back up. He was very emotional when I talked to him on his drive home. When he got here, he started shoveling stairs. I offered to do it and he snapped at me. He hugged me hello and I think I held on for too long. He is feeling (his words) "residual emotion."
To top it off, Saturday he took out his S13 to go shopping for clothes. When he came home, he told me he spent all his money on the clothes. S13 told me tonight that he had also bought a baby blanket for a baby shower and a little girl's jewelry set for a little girl's birthday.
The baby shower is probably someone at work, but the little girl's present is undoubtedly for his OW. He had told me he hadn't spoken to her for 2 weeks.
So, back I come to the board to get it all out before I backslide. Bringing it up and asking will NOT get me closer to my goals, so I CANNOT do that. I want to so badly just to clear it up. I have to wait and trust.
He did tell me tonight that he thinks I have the best legs he's ever seen (thank you, mini skirt and boots) and that he was sorry I am hurting. I told him I am sorry he is hurting.
I think I did a pretty good job because before he went downstairs for class, he was smiling and laughing.
