For both of you, just remember that if you can't decide the court will, and it will most likely decide in the way that the sensible ones not pushing for too much advantage (that is you) are suggesting. Ultimately the Ls know this, and a firm reasonable stand usually calls the bluffing and posturing. Obviously not an L myself, but from talking to others who have pushed through that far, the courts will likely see the filing date as the reasonable and appropriate date of valuation. The problem is that the S doesn't necessarily see this, and this drives the legal fees up until one of you gives out. Hopefully, they have a professional L who will help them see that when you don't just roll over that they played their hand and that it is time to accept reality.

Good luck.


Me: 50 W:43
S6, S3
M: 12 yrs. T: 17
M is bad & Not happy Bomb Mar '14
S 5 Feb '15
D Bomb 13 Apr '15 (but "no hurry")
DB Coach May '15
Wants proceed on D Aug '15
Starting 1-on-1 negotiations Sept '15