FIDO - Changing the Rules - Pt 3

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I stepped back from the boards for a few days to quiet all the voices I was hearing, between the posters, me, my W, and the therapist, I wasn't sure what my own head was saying.

The last week was actually fairly pleasant. We had some good times with the kids, spent a nice evening with friends, and even played Scrabble last night, just the two of us.

Got home today and she was right back in the pit. She said she wants to reconnect with me sexually (I think we have been reconnecting some emotionally), but she's just not feeling it. I told her point blank (as has the therapist and several others) that we have no chance of reconnecting sexually with OM in the picture in any way. She's clearly not still ready to make even symbolic moves to give him up. Geez. No grand pronouncements, I'm just going to go home tonight (having to work a late night) and see what I'm going to do. I'd like to say I'm sure, but I'm not. Sue me.

By the way, I had a bit of bad intel, OM was not in town this week. The meeting I saw his name on turned out to be a conference call.

Thanks to everyone for their support. I will update as soon as I can.