Tough stuff to be sure, LT. Deciding how open to be can be difficult. It's also tough how much to share with the family unit knowing it affects all involved.
As for the kids trying to protect you? Be careful with that one. Kids want to protect their parents - they have to be told and taught what to tell you. And that's a trust thing as well - it's a reflection of what they see and how they make a decision. Take that for what it's worth
Glad you're still communicating. You've seen the other side, so you know it goes slowwwwwwwwwly. Try to take each day as it comes.
Keep up the good work!
AJ
"Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter" MLK Put the glass down... "Yesterday I was clever so I wanted to change the world Today I am wise, so I am changing myself."