Question: Do I go out with my own friends more often, or with H?

Background: H had a very serious first love. She ran around on him and went out at night with her friends. He told her he wanted her to stay with him more often and finally told her "them or me." She chose her friends. He was devastated and got a little rose tatooed on his arm to remind him that you can't hold on too tight or control or else the "thorns" will bite you.

We have always been very close and have done most of our stuff together. Occasionally he goes out with friends, but even then I go along to be with the friend's wives/girlfriends. It's assumed by us that the other is usually invited, unless it's guys/girls night out.

So, my intention now is to continue working on myself, go to the gym and become really hot ( ) and irresistable. I want to follow DR principles and "get a life" but our "life" has always been together and it seems to be what he wants. So, what do I do? I don't want to push his jealousy button, now that I know he has one, too often. But I do want him to chase me and feel he has to put out an effort to win me over. I want to make this fun for both of us, but I don't want to alienate him.


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