Quote: I think everyone wants to help their spouse be the best they can be, and while we can encourage our spouses' growth, while we can become the person that they can't live without, they are the ones that must ultimately choose how they live their lives
I agree with this wholeheartedly, and it is the most important (and by far most difficult) thing to try to understand - that our job is not to "fix" (see my thread for new insight on this) but be calm, patient and unconditionally loving as our spouses work on their own clock, not ours. My mantra lately has been: No Hope (different from hopeless) Zero Expectations
