Ralphy, your MC is something that You feel like you need then by all means. Like the others have said, lower those expectations.
Use this as a great opportunity to learn to VALIDATE. Now a good councilor will do just that to both of you. You can use that experience to see how someone trained in validation actually does it. You also get to see how someone who is Completely detached from your marital issues responds to your wife, and to you. It wasn't until I read the validation pages so many times, did I realize that is what the councilors are doing half the time...just listening and saying 'that must be hard', etc.
You are learning to be a great listener...definitely something you will use in interactions your whole life. so no matter what, you will get something out of these sessions, even if it is not what you are expecting
