Still Struggling with a plan!

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hopeOK -

If I told you he flirted with a few women but nothing further- would that be OK?
If I told you he kissed a few women but nothing further - would that be OK?
If I told you he slept with one woman - would that be OK?
If I told you he slept with several women - would that be OK?

I guess, my point is - is there something that he could have done in that time that would change how you act now? Or is it just a need to feel in control of the situation?

Hmmmm... change how I act.... well to the first one no, I expect that happened. All the rest would require some discussion, I think. Sex a bit more discussion than the kissing. Why he thought that was ok. But would I leave? No, not if he is not going to do that again and sets boundaries to prevent that from happening in the future.

I know I struggle a lot with trying to feel some control over all this & I realize logically that it is impossible as far as what he does goes. So my motives on all the knowledge are a bit blurry for me.