So how exactly does that work when I am dark? If I notice something or want to say something should I reach out just to say thank you? Maybe I need to start going dim.
If you have a kid together, there is only so dark you can go. The way I understand it, being "dark" is total no contact. You cant do that....you have a kid together! So, you still have some contact about schedules and activities and care and what not. There are plenty of opportunities to validate and offer thanks.
