DBing still......WW still (Part 2)

[dwh15]

Sounds to me like you're doing great. I agree on the surgery. Just a quick message wishing her well, or something along those lines. The hypocrisy on dating is ridiculous, but seems to be standard script for a WW. I think you're probably doing the right thing when ignoring the spew if she brings it up. Now, if she politely asks if you've been dating, you could give a courteous reply along the lines suggested earlier. That you're too busy, not ready, working on yourself, etc.

The detachment really is a wonderful thing, and makes life so much more bearable, and even pleasant at times. You and I have similar time lines as far as when our WW left, and I am just now reaching a point of detachment where I can enjoy life again. Still not easy, but tolerable and getting a little better every day. It's sort of ironic that I feel in some ways I am switching emotional spots with my WW. I was totally miserable for the first few months, while she seemed overall happy, relieved with her decision, enjoying life. In fact, that made me feel even worse, seeing how little she seemed to care. But I'm getting to the point I'm questioning if I want her back, and from what little interaction I have and hear about her, she doesn't seem to be in a good place at all. She has regular fights with the OM she lives with, is always stressed about money, and seems to be having more regrets about her choices all the time.

We just have to keep DBing, doing what's best for ourselves and kids, and leave it in God's hands.