Need advice for a WW who left Part 3

[dwh15]

What does your L say about filing?

Would the initiative be best from you?
V

I have asked my attorney about this on several occasions. He assures me that there is no advantage to being the first to file, and thought it was actually a good idea to continue waiting, assuming I am in no hurry to be D. Until someone files, there is no court obligation to pay WW support. Also, it gives me more time to establish a solid history of time spent with kids. The more time that goes on with me being the primary custodial parent, the more likely the court will lean towards keeping things as they have been, meaning I get custody. Neither I nor my WW has brought up the D word in several months, but I have heard that she has been speaking with an attorney. I suspect she would like to file but is having a hard time raising the money to actually hire someone. I'm certainly not helping her along, as time plays to my advantage.

With regard to dating, I understand why you might casually think about this and I agree with MrBond, until the ink is dry then its poor role modelling. There is more work on you. I think what you need is good old fashioned GAL, honest to goodness get out and enjoy yourself with your mates GAL, new activityGAL, old activities GAL, hobbies GAL kids and dwh GAL. work GAL to come, how exciting.

I am very pleased to read more detachment and so very thrilled you are putting the boys first in your life. And dwh needs a life, your boys can see you doing healthy things with your life and having a life, holding your head with pride.

It isn't for me to say, but I am so proud of you, I am shedding a tear of compassion as I type. There is a man who is becoming the best he can be. More steps to do, a work in progress.
V

Thank you so much V. If you read above, I got hit with a few 2x4s on the dating idea, and agree with everyone. There are plenty of reasons NOT to do it, and I will be following the great advice given here. Just needed to be reminded of the reasons.

I feel I am doing really well on GAL and am certainly enjoying getting out and meeting new people, making new friends. Actually excited about starting the new job next week. I plan to continue working on that, and myself, becoming the best father I can be.

In regards to WW, I still miss her, but the days are getting easier, I'm sleeping better, and the morning not nearly so depressing as they once were. I feel myself detaching and know that if there is ever a chance to R with my W, it will be starting all over in a brand new M. The old one is dead and buried. And if we are not together and H and W, then I really do hope to reach a place where we can at least be friends.