Just wanted to pop in and catch up on your sitch since you posted on my thread. I still don't really think I have any earth-shattering advice like many of the other wonderful vets around here, but what I can tell you that I have learned in all of this process (and it is a lengthy one for sure) is to take care of me and focus on me. I'm not really good at that, as most people aren't, but I'm getting better.
For me, the best part has been getting rid of memories that will continue to bring the XH to mind. For me, personally, I'm very visual, so just seeing things can bring on the tears and I just don't need that in my daily life, so I have gotten rid of many things that he picked out or things that he preferred that I didn't. Like I said, it is a process.
Good luck to you, Diana! I will check in again. Hang in there. It does get better.
Me 52, H53 Bomb drop 9/29/2014 Divorce from XH final 12/17/2014 Marriage #2 12/31/2019 5 adult (step)daughters (3 from XH's first marriage, 2 from current H's previous relationships) 6 grandkids
