cool sage, i didn't realize you are from MASS as well--no wonder I can get a c appt until May--just kidding. I remember reading some of your posts, but then I lost you, well, welcome to piercing and hope all is well.
you really remained in control when the GF called and the do you love question. Now that everything is out and he wants to make this work, why didn't he just tell this girl no. Okay it was an EA and not a PA, I would think that that would be easier to break away from. You are doing so well and have come so far. I wouldn't put pressure on him, but the only way you can make all this come together is by him letting go of this FF once and for all. You truly need to focus on eachother and not have this FF lurking in the background. More cuddling opportunities tonight--let is snow, let it snow!!!
Quote: you really remained in control when the GF called and the do you love question. Now that everything is out and he wants to make this work, why didn't he just tell this girl no.
I don't know. I think he panicked because I was right there and he had a good feeling I could hear her and he just wanted to end the call fast. Remember, he stopped seeing her, but never told her it was over. (Actually, they never really were "seeing" each other, it was all done at work.) So, if he had said "no" to her question, she would have kept him on the phone asking "why," etc. He just wanted to say whatever it was that would make it over the fastest.
Quote: More cuddling opportunities tonight--let is snow, let it snow!!!
COOL! Sounds like I had better break out the hot cocoa and Silk.
H did not want to ML last night and only held me sporadically (rather than our usual one holds until the other switches sides, then the other holds...). Then he did the distance thing this morning, but claimed he wasn't. Kiss and hug goodbye, so that went well. I just hope he is feeling cuddly tonight as he has shown me that he needs some time. My LL being PT, I just want to cuddle and ML, but he wants to have space right now. Oh well, time to give him what he wants, right?
Quote: cool sage, i didn't realize you are from MASS as well--no wonder I can get a c appt until May--just kidding. I remember reading some of your posts, but then I lost you, well, welcome to piercing and hope all is well.
LOL but I'm not to blame for the therapist shortage! H and I don't go to MC and I saw my C once this year (and won't be going back! It was graduation time!)
Sage
Relax. Appreciate. Be calm. Laugh. Enjoy. Be secure. Be loving. Be loved. Don't personalize. Don't ASSume. Accept. Be grateful.
You are too much--I love it hot cocoa and silk!! You have got some great ideas girl!! well, I hope he talks to this girl soon and tell her that he is working things out with you. maybe he should change is cell #. Alright I have to continue with my laughing--cocoa and silk!!!!!!
Yes, time to give him what HE wants. Space. He is probably feeling a bit guilty and weird since you overheard the call. Let him work it out in his own head in his own time. Don't push....pull him to you! Attract him, don't pursue him right now. Be patient and loving and kind...he is struggling and you have to make him struggle towards you by being a magnet with an invisible pull.
Oh well, time to give him what he wants, right? 