Time to make changes

[cat04]

I'm going to answer you here because you said this is where you wanted to continue. You cant move the previous thread but it can be linked.

My story is here somewhere, or it was, may have been purged in the most recent server adjustments.

I am not reconciled and I'm really good with that. My X and I get along well. My story is a long one. The long and short...

QLC 98-2000. Reconciled but crisis not finished. Bomb 03...nothing. Bomb 07, another in 08. By mid 09, I was done. After a lot of Dbing, alot of introspection, and a lot of heartbreak.

We shared our home, separate rooms, until late 2011, and then I moved. We did this for our son. We learned how to navigate it. It wasnt always pretty but it worked.

The perimenopause...I forget everything. That didnt start until about 2 years ago. Night sweats and other symptoms for close to 10 years now. Periods come and go when they want. Not on any sort of schedule. The worst for me is the mood swings.

I manage with a combination of natural rememdies. I am nog someone who visits the doctor often. I seem to be allergic to chemical things. So...I take phytoestrogens (plant estrogens), which helped for a long time. But not totally. Then I learned that they need to be balanced with progestrone. So I added progestrone cream. As my sex drive waned, i learned i could and needed to boost my testerone, so I take zinc for that. It took a lot of research and time to find the right combination.

Additionally, i make lists. Alot. Even to keep track of cleaning and stuff because i can easily walk from one room to the other and get distracted.

It gets better eventually. Or so they tell me.