Communication between the ex and I are slowly improving. We now communicate at least once a day. That is a vast improvement. It has also gone from just about the kids to her asking about me and what I am doing or just sharing something she is doing.
We have been going for an occasional walk or ice cream and having longer conversations. We have attempted to keep this too our selves because we did not want to get kids hopes up nor deal with some apparent anger they we showing till we figured out things for ourselves. Unfortunately or fortunately our kids found out and confronted us on it this past Sunday. This led to a family meeting that evening and I feel we finally exposed a burden that the kids had carrying by themselves and hopefully dealt with it. Right after my wifes attempt she told the kids and everyone in her family that I was the cause for her attempt. My kids did not tell me because they did not want to hurt me. when they confronted wife on this she said she did not remember ever saying that. I believe she said it and I also believe that she does not remember. Par for the course of MLC. We all agreed that we would be more open about what was going on.
I talked to the girls later and explained that saying stuff like that is very typical for people going through a crisis. That also not remembering is typical. I told them they should have told me and not carried the burden themselves. That I would have understood.
This is proving to be a very long slow road I am on and still no idea where it is leading.
Twisting on Life's Rope Me53 W53 M20 D21 D19 D16 BD 2-2013 D final 1-2015 _________________________ "Dream about tomorrow, Live for today, Learn from yesterday"
