My story

[drpqb29]

I realize I have an unhealthy relationship with my H. I lose control of my emotions (generally emotional/hurt/angry crying) when things don't go my way. Anyone have some resources on how I can learn to control my unproductive reactions?

Another thought/question...will detaching help with this? Because I won't be as emotionally charged? Is this where it is all related? I am trying to connect the dots, but for me to be a smart girl, I feel so dense at times.

I would say my H biggest complaint would be that I am controlling and emotional when I don't get my way. I resort to doing and saying (mostly saying) extreme things for a reaction from him.

Whether or not we make it, I don't want my future relationship to be the same as this one.

This morning I began to read the Detachment Thread and am beginning to do the steps.

I feel sad that I have been so out of touch with his wishes. He also says I don't listen to him and constantly hear only what I want to hear. I keep pressuring him and talking to him about us working on our marriage. That isn't what he needs right now , and I am being selfish not respecting his wishes.

Growing pains... and yet...and am scared I am not really learning and practicing anything. I want change, but not willing to work on me. I am feeling lost and insecure about the decisions I am making.