I do have a good sense of humor and a Scottish quick wit. My STBX was so emotionally shut down before we split that I could have screamed like a banshee and he would not have noticed or cared. It is only now or recently that I am noticing he seems to care (at least to some degree) what I think of him.
I don't think I realized how much his Dad dying affected him. He seemed so detached from his passing and I thought at the time that he had not mourned and just went on as normal. Now it seems he just stuffed all his feelings down so he didn't have to deal with them. He was asking me questions about different events before his Dad passed. STBX does not have a good memory while I have the memory of an Elephant. STBX remarked at how he was amazed at the detail I could remember. It also I think reminded him of our life when we were together. Not just the rewritten past....he chose to remember. SD noticed that her D had brought up the fact that I was one of the few people who could read his hand writing. Lol .
I am glad he is seeming to be closer to the end of the MLC tunnel. Who knows if he will grow enough for me but any growth will be better for him and SD.
Big Hugs
Karma
Me 52 H 44 T9 M 5 BD 12/11 H split 8/12 OW moved in 12/12 OW gone for good 6/14 We get closer again 9/14 SD 13 Me 4 Grown
Accept what is...let go of what was and have faith in what will be.
