Although you are unsure of what to say, i think you have decided to tell WW and also the kids very soon. As you have filed in the court then it isn't possible for WW to outmanoeuvre you, so you have five or six days to plan what to say. Be prepared for her to ask what you filed or for an early copy of the documents filed. That's easy to deal with if you want to, your L has advised you in this case that the fact you have filed is the important thing to advise not the content? Is that the advice from L?
Seems to me the decisions are:
How to tell her- text ( nah...), email (unlikely) phone ( possible?) in person (most likely)
Where to tell her- if it were me, neutral territory, neither home nor work place
When to tell her- which day, time of day etc, but I think between day 8 and day 11 after filing, gives her a couple of days to cool before she gets the paperwork. And when WW is likely to be cool tempered
Who to tell first? The kids or WW? If it were me then I would tell WW and kids very close together in timeframe using the order that suited me. If you told the kids first you could then contact WW with the news that there was something you needed to tell her before she heard it elsewhere
Then there is why of course, you are telling her to forewarn her because, it's your moral imperative and you want your children to know which is much more important?
In my book telling your children is the most important thing, how you tell them is something they will remember for the rest of their lives. You are their role model and vital to their safety and well being so my first concern is your children. Tell them somewhere safe for them, lots of hugs and answer questions as honestly as you can. Be prepared to be asked questions that are inappropriate for you to answer and you may need to say up front, " I will answer as many qs as I can although some things are adult issues" . kids can often blame themselves so it is important to say "there is nothing you have done to cause this, this is an issue between mom and I"
If you want to role play on the board then that's ok, although in this instance I think you would be best with IC.
((((((((((hugs)))))))))))
V
Last edited by Vanilla; 08/26/1506:23 AM.
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