Need advice for a WW who left Part 3

[dwh15]

Had a pretty good day. Picked up a few hours of work on a side job, then met my cousin for dinner and drinks. After that, got some more training as a bartender and helped close down the club, then home by 11pm. Stayed active, had a good time, and day went by quickly. Still thinking about WW but not constantly and it's not nearly as painful as a few weeks ago.

Kids were with mom yesterday and when they came home, I heard from S18 that mom seemed stressed most of the time and glued to her phone all night. She was apparently fighting with OM and that was her focus. He said it seems to be a pretty regular thing with those two and happens every couple of weeks. They always seem to make up by the next day but the whole relationship just seems toxic and unstable. I'm getting beyond worrying about when or if it falls apart, in terms of giving me a chance. But I do worry about how it affects the kids and whether it is healthy for them to even be around WW when her primary focus is the latest argument with OM. I continue to log time spent by both me and WW each day, and will be presenting it as evidence when/if we get to the point of officially determining custody.

I know my W loves her kids but she clearly isn't thinking straight and doesn't seem to be making them a priority in her life right now. It's amazing and deeply sad to have to say that about one of the most generous and caring mothers I ever saw, up until a few years ago, but it is current reality. There are no other priorities for me - those boys are my life. I know that I need to be the rock for them and I will do whatever is required to protect them, even if it means going after a lion's share of the custody. My W says she wants more time with them, but never takes action on it. In fact, any time a social event comes up, she will prioritize that over time with the kids, and often cancels due to that kind of thing. I hate to say it, but feel that she only sees dollar signs when she starts talking about custody. She wants the financial support w/o the responsibility. I'm prepared to fight and continue to hope and pray that some day my WW wakes up.