Why don't I have friends like you. All my friends tell me #&%@ her and try to hook me up with someone. I'm so sick of hearing that. I don't want to "hook up". I want to be me and be a better dad. I can do that.
What you are hearing from family and friends is just about universal in these types of situations I've come to believe. I hear all the exact same stuff. It's gotten to the point I don't feel comfortable even expressing my true wishes because they are invariably met with wide eyes and dropped jaws. Nobody can understand it, and nobody believes it could ever work. Would just never be the same, you can never trust her again, bla, bla. I'm sure you've heard it all.
Now I don't think any of us LBH's are fooling ourselves. The road back to a healthy M is a very long and difficult one. And maybe all the naysayers are right, and it's not going to work out. But we have to be the ones to decide. We are fighting for our lives, our families, our future. Something about getting the "give it up" advice from people who are running home to their own complete, happy families really burns me. I know they mean well and just want to help, but they truly have no idea what it feels like to go through something like this. Keep with it, and when you are ready, make the decision that is best for you.
Me 47 W 42 T 24 yrs M 18 yrs W living with OM BD1: 3/7/2015 (A with OM#1) BD2: 4/11/2015 (A with OM#2, W moves out) WW filed for D, papers received 9/18/2015. Meeting to determine child custody 9/29/2015.
