Just another update...or I should say an update I should've mentioned a month ago. I have been seeing a new lady. She was a girl I went to high school with. We had reconnected after my divorce last summer and we would hang out once every 10 days or so. Well we started hanging out more a few months ago and back in June, one night when we went out with some friends...she decided to push things beyond friendship between us. We became intimate and things are okay between us but we both are just letting things progress naturally to see where it leads us. Strange how this girl, who I couldn't possibly think of in a romantic way a few months ago...suddenly seems to be a romantic interest of mine.
In any event, not totally relevant to my thread here but I figured I'd post it in case any newbies here, who are in those initial stages of the divorce shock...people in complete despair and hopelessness at the thought of life without WAW; can realize that no matter how hopeless your life seems now... no matter how devasted you are right now...it DOES get better and you DO get your power back though DB'ing and becoming a man only a fool would leave. And if you DO NOT contact your WAW at all, she WILL eventually contact you...guaranteed! You will eventually be in the driver's seat because you realize there IS life without WAW...and I can't even believe I am hearing myself say that when just a year ago when my sitch was new...I was actually thinking suicide...not that I could ever really kill myself but I did often wish I was dead just to escape the intense pain of loss after 18 years with WAW.

So if anything at all can be taken from my update here about my high school friend, it is that life goes on and you can be confident and happy again...and you will be. As Yoda says, "That is the way of things." DB'ing works... even if you DON'T save your marriage, you DO save yourself!

Hope these ramblings of mine help at least one desperately lost person here see some hope and I hope everyone is hanging in there.

I do welcome any thoughts regarding my recent WAW updates in this thread.

Last edited by ItHurts; 08/26/15 02:01 AM.
ME: 43 W:44
M 13 years on 5-5-01
T 18 years
BD 4/27/14
D papers served 5/5/14 (how appropriate a date)
WAW moved out 5/12/14
Papers filed 6/27/14
Divorce granted 07/17/14
Our marriage ends 11/17/14