So she moved out almost exactly a month ago. I have been weak a few times in there but have been pretty good given the situation. I have called her only once because her grandfather passed away. I had to... I just had to and also sent flowers to the funeral home but that was mainly for her family who I adore.
There's nothing inherently wrong with sending flowers. You'd likely do that for a coworker or decent friend. What would be wrong is attaching expectations to it. If you think she's going to reconsider anything based on that act. Hell, thinking she'll even say "thank you" is too much.
Originally Posted By: pinnacl
I had a 2 week stretch of me not initiating any contact. It felt good. I even ignored her thank you text message for the flowers. Then I got weak this weekend and texted her a few times before I found this site. They went mostly ignored of course.
Well, now you know right? As I like to say, the stove is still hot.
Originally Posted By: pinnacl
She has shown zero interest in me the past month. I do not see how this will change. I think she has a pretty good idea of what life will be like without me and she seems to enjoy it. She is treating me like an ex-boyfriend, not her husband. It drives me crazy. I sit here and think about her constantly and know she is not thinking about me.
Who KNOWS what she's thinking about. Could be you, OM, or polka dotted unicorns. That's why the best advice is to focus inwards. Stop worrying about she's thinking about and worry about the things you can control - you, your actions, your thoughts, your reactions, etc.
Originally Posted By: pinnacl
I will order those books today. I think I am doing good though. I exercise a lot while focusing on work and school. I have plans to look for a new job in the near future because the growth in my current is stagnate. I also want to be a better person and am thinking what I did to contribute to this situation. I'll get there. Luckily, she has given me a lot of practice in this very situation. The stakes are just larger now.
These are good things. Getting out and about is a great start. Also, the PMA you describe below is GREAT. These two things will turn you around faster than anything else, in my opinion.
