Wonka ... thank you so much for your insight here.
The FOO thing has been something as of late, she really perks up and its been a very solid topic for us these past few months ... sharing things that we never knew about each other ...little by little bubbling to the surface.
As you said, I may never know, ... she may never know what set this all into motion, it is strange that we too bought a house, had some serious issues about that time ... inside a 3 year span, bought a house, went on our late honeymoon (5 years after M), miscarried a child, birth to S, she lost her job of 13 years all in that span ... was enough for just one of these things to trigger MLC let alone all of them one after the other.
I do not have that 'deep fear' ... its hard to fear something like that, again out of my hands. Would I stand for another round ... boy.. tougher question and one I hope to never answer.
W is really working on the M, I see it .. even more I feel it. Its a slow process but I see her smile, actually truly smile ... the weight is lifting, and there is a renewed hope for the future... we are figuring things out .. issues of M1.0, mistakes we made .. most of all we are talking through them ... not just getting upset, yelling and blowing off steam and leaving these things laying around, but actually talking about how each one FEELS about whatever it is going on.
This is what AJ touched on .. re-tooling .. dare I say being adults about it and actually refusing to let the kids indside us wreck the new car.
Anyway Thank you again for sharing your valuable perspective from the MLC shoes ... I can not tell you how valuable you are not only to me, but to this forum.
