As you have pointed out previously, I can be blunt with my advice. Well, this is going to be one of those times. Have you not listened to any of the advice that the posters have given you since you came here? If you continue to behave this way towards your h, he's going to completely give up on doing anything for you and you'll be here complaining about that.
You want advice? APOLOGIZE!
I had a feeling he didn't forget. He got you a gift and you basically threw it back in his face all because he's not wearing his ring and not jumping your bones and proclaiming his undying love for you. Guess what...he's right...you were unappreciative of the effort he had made. It's the thought that counts.
Do you have any idea how many people who are going through this stuff would have been happy that their spouses remembered their anniversaries? You are a very lucky woman that still has her h at home, wants to do some things w/you and recognizes anniversaries, etc. Gosh, so many don't have that type of behavior going on. They have spoiled, selfish, self-centered people making their lives a misery.
So, my question to you is this....what are you expecting him to do for you? He's in crisis and it takes a very long time for them to get through it? One minute you want him to do something for you, the next you don't. You need to make up your mind as to whether you are going to stand for your marriage and weather the storms or bust down the door and call it quits.
You need to seriously sit down and think about whether you want your marriage and your h in your life or not. If you continue to shoot him down like this, he could very well decide it's time to call it quits. Now what are you going to do to get this back on track? I say APOLOGIZE!
