Still DB'ing - Still Learning from WAW (6)

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PP

I know for me, all that 'self work' while some was ties into the M and mistakes I made ... the core stuff was things about me that not only affected my M, but also other relationships.

I lean more towards being a bit mysterious about what you learned, what you are dealing with ... one could even just tell the W the DB go-to "I have been making some progress, I am happy with the results thus far, I still have some ways to go ... given the chance I would do several things differently" .... if prodded then you can just list one or two things you would do differently in your M ... this is all YOUR perspective on yourself that might align up with legit complaints she had. None of this is aimed towards her, nor your M per-say ... just self reflective stuff. The less details you give, the more she can think about it and connect her own dots.

Sounds like your IC is on the ball ... it truly is all about YOU right now.

Thanks Cali, I appreciate this. I'm still trying to make it about her and my reactions to her. That not only takes the focus off of me, but will inevitably feel like pressure for her. I can't make it about her without her feeling like there is some expectation of "now that I've figured it out....what do you think?"

I'll keep it about me and keep it minimal. DB'ing is still not my default mode of operating yet, but it's getting there.

Thank you.

PP