Cali,

I think you're being unfair here....

Originally Posted By: CaliGuy

As far as the Demons ... I am not sure if she is truly facing them at the moment, seems like she has gone more the 'keep busy route' ... new job, upcomming trip, she is all over the camera stuff. I am just observing, understanding those boxes of demons are not something she is going to dive into full force ... she will deal with them in her way on her time table and I would suspect I am not going to be any the wiser while she is actually doing this. Her Circus .. her Monkeys ... I have my hands full with my own.


Let's rattle off some items that W has broken down and cried over the past several months:

-STD
-Ghost of XOM
-Seeing your reactions to triggers
-Loss of the M's innocence
-Seeing how the A affected S and you
-Addressing intimacy issues
-Attending Retrouaville

I am baffled by your declaration that you think she isn't "truly" facing her demons. By what yardstick do you base this assumption on? Is it on you to make this 'decision/assumption' on W's behalf??!! Doesn't W have a say in her OWN process at all? In a way, I find that assumption of yours preposterous and a touch condescending.

I'd argue that you're going through the busy route as well with job, softball, DJ gigs, and trying to force "homework" time together ACCORDING to your own schedule. confused confused This is called real life, buddy.

Jeez. W can't have some breathing space here to grow at her own pace. That is the problem right there: You seem to think that things must happen at a certain timetable. When it doesn't happen in that fashion, you just throw up your arms and declare that W isn't "all in on the M." Or delude yourself into the fall back option of "well, I am not all in on the M either BECAUSE W isn't all in."

Don't you see how crazy your assumptions and thought patterns are when it comes to W's own process of dealing with the fall out of the A, piecing back the M, and charting a new path as a working woman.


Last edited by Wonka; 08/25/15 04:39 PM.