Hi Joss. So sorry you are here, but, you have landed among some special people.
It would be best if you posted in only one forum..newcomers or MLC so that we can follow you. Newcomers has more activity, but can move quickly so your posts will be further down.
MLC has less activity but we are more familiar with the crisis.
So, first things first. Your h has given you good information, just be careful to own only your stuff. Look at what he's said and then decide what has merit.
This journey you are on will be an amazing one..difficult - yes, but you will learn and grow in incredible ways if you do the work.
Hard as it is, the focus has to be on you and your kids. Show him a positive, upbeat Joss when interacting.
Dropping the rope doesn't mean you don't care. It doesn't mean that you are abandoning him. On the contrary, you are allowing him the space he needs to work through his stuff without the "noise" of a life he thinks he no longer wants. It is a gift you are giving him.
Start to live the changes you want to make. Don't try all of them at once. Do one or two to start. Otherwise you will just be adding to your anxiety. Keep doing them until they become real and then move on.
